Remembering Bar

Just a thought: as a way of remembering my cousin Bar who died from AML last oct, im thnking of going to PCMC cancer and hema unit to give out somethng to kids. (toys, books etc) who’s willing to join?

I posted this in my facebook status today. I thought that this will be the first Christmas that Guayco family will not be celebrating with Bar. Bar have said : Sa pasko dun tayo kila Mommy ha, gusto ko marami tayo He was looking up to this year’s Christmas Holidays. One way of actually remembering Bar would be by GIVING and SHARING.

Hindi ako mayaman to be able to give fancy gifts to kids but there are things that I want to do to share. God has been good to me and to my family and I want to share and remember Bar at the same time.

I’m thinking of going to Phil. Childrens Medical Center – Cancer and Hematology Unit and atleast give gifts to children who are inpatients. Kids who are in great deal of pain. I don’t know where I will be able to gather what ever gifts I can afford to give but I know God is good and this will definitely happen.

Simple toys or books can be used or brand new will surely give smiles on these kids faces. Hoping that one day before Christmas I will be able to go there and send love to these kids.

For sure, kakaibang gimik to. I mean most of us would think how to spend or where to spend our 13th month pay and/or christmas bonuses, I think this time mas magandang gimik to with friends and family who are willing to help.

For those who are interested to join this little Christmas Project in Remembrance of Bar, we can bring toys or books for kids in PCMC Cancer Ward probably days before Christmas – please contact me 0917-8958803 – Mark

Moving on and moving forward

What have the big C taught our family? The 35-day ordeal of Bar in fighting against Leukemia was such a bliss. Accepting his illness was not even sinking in 2 weeks after it was formally confirmed by the result of his bone marrow test. It was so fast. With the kind of family that we have, it must be such a hard lesson that we all must take.

The fight against the big C for a 10-year old boy was definitely a hard battle. We were caught unprepared, and probably have hit us in a very bad timing. But then again, we have learned so much from this. We have learned to be united again. That even though, Bar is an extended family for the most of us, and everyone has  its own immediate family, still we needed to do our part at those times. The history of our family being so closely tied and at the same time being detached from one another are much deeper than Filipino culture. We have uniquely evolved from just simply an extended family who used to live in an “ancestral” home – simply we are uniquely different (in both negative and positive ways).

Bar’s conquest may have been fast. We are still mourning. The demise of a 10-year old boy is indeed painful. We are mourning. It is our right to mourn and to grieve. But we are moving on too. In God’s time, wounds will be healed. And I know we are moving forward, not because we will forget  Bar, but we will start facing the days of our lives with all the hard and well-learned lessons he gave us.

Thank you Bar


Bar passed away this afternoon 2.15 pm due to respiratory arrest as complication of his ailment spesis due to AML. This was his last smile as he posed last night when we visited him. BAR – we love you so much. As our family mourn for your demise, we will forever treasure your love and strength in our hearts! The love o…f a child is unconditional and non-negotiable just as God loves us! Thank you Bar for teaching us how to be strong and be united as one family.

I would like to thank the good souls who helped Bar fighting this AML by being blood donors and moral support

Kate Capil and FEU friends leaded by Ms Yoko and Mr Noel for helping us for Bar’s BT.

Baraquiel – battle against AML



I appeal to the good souls of everyone to help my 10 yo cousin having same ailment as Francis M (Acute Myeloid Leukemia) Now admitted at PCMC Hematalogy and Cancer ward 1A, his name is Froi Baraquiel Guayco.

His 1st round of chemo-therapy has been discontinued for the mean time due to infection and low platelet count.

Need blood donors to help this little angel to fight this AML